Finding a Man to “Fit” into Your Life

March 28, 2018

Derek and I met like most Millenniums do, on a dating app.  Our first date was coffee and I left that date knowing I would either marry him or he would break my heart.

After we parted, he texted me telling me I had beautiful eyes and I asked him out on a hiking date for the next day (super hard to get)😅 🤦🏼‍♀️.  Fitness and wellness is something that is SO important to me so I had to make sure he would fit into my active lifestyle.

We had an amazing hike, shared a lot about ourselves and even had our first kiss at the top.  From that day on we were pretty inseparable.  At the time I was working at a fitness studio in West Hollywood and he started coming a few times a week to take my class, I loved it.  He later admitted that the only reason he came was to impress me, how cute.

Fitness has been an important part of our relationship and it continues to be. 

In the beginning, Derek didn’t completely understand why I loved working out and why I always wanted to be running around outside. Over time and the more I took him out on adventures, the more he grew to love it.

Our favorite dates became bike rides, hikes, and walks around our neighborhood.  We try to workout 2-3 times a week together in the mornings and we always end our workout with a smoothie or coffee date.

Fast forward a year and a half later.

We are in Santa Barbara on a sunrise hike and Derek drops down on one knee and asks me to spend the rest of my life with him.  I would also like to add in that this was a weekend off for me and I was excited to relax but Derek woke me up at 5 am for this sunrise, raining, hike (it was worth it).

We got married in Malibu on top of a mountain on the most beautiful September day.  It was the best day of my life and I wish I could go back and do it again and again.

Something really important that has helped our relationship is balance. 

I am the more hyperactive one and Derek appreciates a nice date night out to a fancy restaurant.  We make sure to stay balanced with our dates.  We may spend a Saturday hiking in Malibu and grabbing lunch and the next week we go out for dinner and drinks.

It is important that both people in the relationship feel that their interests are respected – you have to fit into each other’s lives!  It’s easy for me because basically, anything we do together I love, whether it’s a quiet night at home, a 6-mile hike, or a 5-course dinner, I am happy just to be with him.

Featured Couple: 

Alex Curtis-Skrzynski – @alexcurtiswellness,

Derek Skrzynski – @dmskrz

Days Together: 1065

(curated and edited by How We Last)


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